| Have you noticed your friends have started | | | | Perhaps your friends cave to your demands, |
| avoiding you? Maybe they stopped inviting you to | | | | perhaps they ignore them. Chances are if you are |
| the night out. Perhaps your friends just do not | | | | always complaining, they notice. They may even |
| seem happy to talk to you. It could have | | | | be debating dumping you from group activities. |
| something to do with your habits. | | | | What will your friends do? |
| How do things happen on a group night out? | | | | Your friends may mention to you that you |
| Your friends want to go out for Mexican, you | | | | complain frequently. They may be even more |
| whine that Mexican gives you heartburn. The | | | | direct, telling you to stop. But if you do not |
| latest action movie is what your friends want to | | | | change they will eventually do what other friends |
| see, you complain that movie has too much | | | | will do, which is stop inviting you to activities or |
| violence. Bowling is too hard you say. You hate | | | | avoid you as much as possible. |
| playing pool. | | | | Do you think about your friends? |
| What do you say about your life? | | | | Remember your friends have lots going on in their |
| You tell your friends you hate your job, of | | | | lives as well. Things may not be as good as they |
| course, you hated the last four. They listen as | | | | say, but they choose to focus on the positive |
| you say how you don't get along with any of | | | | aspects of life. If it is on a night out, the last thing |
| your co-workers and you wonder why. By the | | | | they want to focus on is the problems in life and |
| way it is too hot, too cold, too windy, too wet | | | | here you are mentioning problems and adding |
| today. Your cat sheds. Your children fight. | | | | problems by whining. |
| What is the purpose? | | | | Can you make things better? |
| Perhaps you think you are just venting. Maybe | | | | Offer alternatives, if you really do not like Mexican |
| you think you are just expressing your feelings | | | | food. If that is what the group wants, try to find |
| about the group choices.. If all you do is complain | | | | something you could eat off the menu. Perhaps |
| your friends are wondering why they are friends | | | | the action flick really bothers you, tell your friends |
| with you. They may also be saying to themselves | | | | you would like to meet them after. Remember |
| they know why your co-workers do not get | | | | others have stressful lives as well, do not add |
| along with you. | | | | whining to the list as well. The quality of your |
| How is this effecting your friendships? | | | | friendships will improve if you remember friends |
| What you are doing is slowly burning bridges. | | | | want more joy in their own lives. |